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Nolwazi Mnikwa , Relationships

HOPE is a trait that cannot be separated from love. It is a trait that is engrafted in love. The term hope can be defined as a feeling of expectation and desire for something to happen. Where there is love there is by no doubt hope.

As a parent you have hopes for your child. You hope for your child to have a bright and successful future. You hope for your child to do well and excel in his or her studies, you hope for your child to be the best they can be. This hope is actually a manifestation of the love you have towards your child. Even when you have a naughty child as a parent you hope for the child’s behaviour to change for the better.

This hope is not just hope in isolation but it is hope that comes from a place of love.

In a period where there is a high rate of unemployment, a parent desires to see his or her child employed so they are able to take care of themselves. Some parents will reach out to people they know in their networks just to try to help their child gain employment. The desire to see your child gain employment is hope that comes from a place of love.

As a parent you do not want to see your child suffer, toil or hurt. You always hope for them to get the best in all aspects of their lives, whether it be education, career or business, you want the best for your child. Even when it comes to your child finding a life partner (spouse), you want the best for your child.

This is evidence that love always hopes. It is because you love your child that you hope for all the good things for them.

In marriage, the same principle of love always hopes applies. I say this is a principle because this is a fundamental truth that serves as part of the foundations of love. Hope cannot be divorced from love as love always hopes. In marriage, when you love your spouse, you will always hope for the best for them.

You do not want to see your spouse fail neither do you want to see your spouse remain stagnant. You desire for your spouse to excel in all areas of their life, you desire for your spouse to grow from one level to another. That desire is the hope element that is embedded in love.

If for some reason you do not have the slightest desire to see your spouse grow, succeed or have the best in life, I would encourage you to develop love for your spouse. A lack of desire for the success and growth of your spouse in all areas is an indicator that the love you once had for your spouse has dwindled. In such an instance, it would be ideal for you and your spouse to help each other identify the things that caused the love to die down and deal with them.

Every child wants to see their parent do well; every child wants to see their parent comfortable. No child wants to see their parent suffer, toil or work like an elephant only to eat like an ant. Because of this, every child hopes to see their parents live well. Every child hopes to see their parents retire well when they reach an old age. This hope is the manifestation of the love that children have towards their parents.

Love in its nature is kind and it is patient, it does not have room for negativity. It just becomes natural for love to always hope because where there is kindness, patience and no negativity, there is definitely bound to be hope. The fact that love keeps no record of wrong is another indicator of the fact that love always hopes. It is practically impossible to hope for the best for someone when you are keeping record of the wrongs they have done. The records of the wrongs they have done become to you the image you have concerning that person.

These records cloud your judgment concerning the person to such an extent that you cannot see that person beyond the records of wrong that you are keeping about them. As a result, you will not be able to develop any kind of hope for that person. Keeping records of wrong concerning someone basically makes you vies the person as a hopeless case because you cannot see them beyond the image of wrong that you have about them. I would encourage you to get rid of whatever records of wrong you are keeping on the person you love so that you are able to experience the dimension of love always hopes.

Love is such a beautiful thing if approached well and with understanding of the different attributes that make love what it is. One of these attributes is that love always hopes as love desires a positive outcome for the people to whom love is being given.

I would love to hear your thoughts, comments and feedback as well as relationship topics you would like covered. You may send these to umthombowol[email protected] or to +263775978857. Keep safe and be blessed.